We did a presentation to the Annual Conference of the International Association of Counselors and Therapist in 2013 May in Daytona on the topic;
How to Ask Good Questions.
At the end, there was the chance to test their skills. The problem kindly offered by volunteer subject was:
I cannot complete my morning appointments on time.
As it turned out the class members each had the chance to put 5 questions. Each one had 5 answers. Now we had to say to the class we could not permit them anymore question in accord with the Bandler Rule of 5:
If your first question could could not elucidate the nature of the problem, that is an event.
If your second could not, then it was a coincidence.
If the third could not, then that would be the work of the Devil.
If your fourth could not, then that is God's will.
If your fifth could not, then it is you; you just do not know how to ask a good question.
So we now asked the class, "You all have your 5 answers. With them, can any of you say that you know how to solve his question?" None could
We were quite shocked to discover this as this was a class of very senior Counselors and Therapists.
It was our turn to show them what we could do. This was our question:
Who arranges the schedule of your morning appointments?
On the way home from Florida, Jennifer and I wondered if it was true that groups of people could not ask good question?
The only way to verify this was to find if there was such a thing as 4 consecutive groups of people who could not ask good questions. If we did, then by the Bandler Rule of 5, we would be forced to the conclude:
People in general,
just do not know how to ask good questions!
And this was exactly what we found.
Here is the problem we had in the second group when came home. This was the volunteer subject's problem that he voiced to the group with desperate frustration:
I can never find a balance
between my social and professional working life!
If you can find the one question by which to solve this person's problem, you will not need to come to our seminar:
How to Ask Good Questions.
If you cannot find the one question by which to solve this person's problem, may we respectfully and humbly but bold to commend it to you. And if you decide to accept this advice please connect with this lady below for the details as to when it will be put on:
Margaret Marsan
E-mail Address(es):
a-mmarsan@bell.net
Part I of the seminar will be held on Wednesday evening, from 6.30PM to 8.30PM; and for Part II, two weeks later, same time.
At the end, if you wish to, you can apply for a certification as:
Certified No-Y-ian Semantic Analyst.
This certification will be given to you by the accredited school:
The No-Y-ian Institute.
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