Another thought of note.

    Life is a balance between free will over our behaviour vs the patterns of our behaviour. This is a distinction that most people are not aware of.

    Normally, we are functions of the automatic patterns of our behaviour. and in the Blame Frame, whether our patterns are well-formed or ill-formed, THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT.

    It is when patterns are ill-formed and their consequences become intolerable that the proverbial shit then finally hits the fan.

 

    Then, if the person has good will for the other, he can override the ill-formed pattern of behaviour. However, the override is NOT PERMANENT.

    The patterns will creep back again and prevail again, more and more, and worse and worse . . . until the proverbial shit hits the fan again.

    Then the person uses his free will to override the pattern again. Things are now good again . . . for a while.

    Then the pattern creeps back again  . . .

 

    This then means that there is a meta cycle that goes on and on and it to becomes intolerable.

 

    People in the end are the world's leading authorities to be the way they are.

    Any person is the NOT the worlds leading authority HOW NOT TO BE THE WAY HE IS. He only knows to replicate himself day after day to the last day of his life. We do not know how NOT to do it.

 

    If one want help, he needs to find a good NSP clinician